Advice

I've had a little thought i'd like to share. Some words of advice...which just so happen to deal with just that. Advice. This concept has intrigued me for the last little bit as I have received much, as well as have given some in my day.

Advice is something everyone thinks they are good at giving, which they just may be; however, at times, it is the very last thing one wants to hear from a person...even in a time or sorrow or hurt.

Everyone is ready to tell you this or that, that they know how you feel, that time will heal all (one of my most hated phrases...cause, OF COURSE I know that in time things will be alright. Life isn't meant to be miserable and sad. I know everyone goes through crap. I know that one day we all will be happy. I have faith in this. A lot of faith. I just don't want to hear it when at the moment life sucks).

Now, don't get me wrong. Many times we ask for it and certain advice is very much needed and helpful. But honestly, what is it that everyone is really asking for? Its for someone to just LISTEN. Someone to vent to, cry on or just whatever. And then after all the chaos has settled, you can look at the other person and smile and say nothing. Knowing you both have had crappy days. Knowing you both have been sad. Just being able to have some listen will solve it all. Just say I understand, I am here for you and hug it out.

I know I have plenty to say when it comes to relationships. But, does that make me an expert in relationships? NO! Does that make me understand what you are going through? Maybe. Bottom line is, whatever I have to say is BLAH BLAH BLAH, I've been through this and that and some more blah. But all I am really saying is, "I understand...I have had some crappy days in my life to, do you want me to tell you how I got through them?" Now, the words I speak may be comforting. But its the actual listening that does the trick.

Our culture is prone to it. We pray to God and tell him our thoughts and and our feelings. Believing and having faith that he is listening. Do we hear Him talk back to us? Does He give us council? Does He give us advice? Not really. What He DOES do, is comforts us, He calms our soul, He gives peace to our decisions, these and other similar feelings let us know it will all be alright.

Now, don't get me wrong. I 100 percent believe that God gives us revelation. That we do receive advice from scriptures and prophets and leaders of the church. And these things can be answers to our prayers. We should seek these things out constantly. But in my experience (here's my advice) I have come to love and cherish my Heavenly Father who ALWAYS listens to me gripe, cry, laugh, and share my life. He doesn't tell me any story about his life, or back when he had this problem. He just listens, and it is so comforting to know that he does. And I think we should all take a lesson from His example. That when someone needs someone to talk to...let them talk, forget about yourself for a moment and just listen. This will make a world of difference. This is what most of us really want.

Am I right?

Also, If someone ASKS for advice, well then by all means, spill your heart out...but make sure thats really what the person wants to hear.

Also, also: Do you like that this whole posting was me giving advice. HA! I make myself laugh.

Your Loss

I don’t think you’re listening, I don’t think you’re here

I think your eyes are blinded, you’ve never shed a tear

Your heart must be so empty, your soul must feel alone

The day you cut me from your life and left me on my own

But I don’t think it matters, the hurt that I now feel

For on the morrow I will stand, and say it’s no big deal

And I will soon forget the past, gracious for what we had

The loss of you will cease to ache, for I’m no longer sad

Mere Reflection

I see the pain in your eyes 

Of lonely days, of troubled lives

To feel nothing, to feel empty

I see you running in the sea

The vast array of nothingness

Has brought you to your very last

No demon now can bring you down

You've found your hell, received your crown

To live for nothing but hopes and dreams

Leaves distraught thoughts and broken seams

Your gaze is blinded by too much noise

And space and time and child’s toys

Something better must be near

But first must break this stupid mirror

Depression

You lay in bed, forget the truth

You curse that which is done

You lost your hope, that inner fire

You cannot find the sun

You meekly smile to those around

You fake to seem more true

Your passion fleeing, desire is gone

Your struggle isn’t through

You cry and cry, while all alone

You harvest forlorn fear

Your exhausted grip about to break

Your bitter end seems near

You forgot about your one true friend

You forgot about the Son

You forgot about His loving hand

You forgot what He’s done

You need to use that small seed

Your faith begins anew

Your trust in Him brings new light

Your burdens are made few

You understand His purpose now

You start to shed a tear

Your heart is healed when you allow

Your soul, His love to rear

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stateofreflection.com

Thanks,
Me

Sorry

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Sorry I haven't posted in a while
But I am sure you'll get over it

Stand-fast

Sometimes we feel backed up in a corner
Beat up, ignored, made fun of and more
Or even alone we may often times feel
And wonder why we're in this lonely ordeal
Then maybe progression you think you may see
But pushed down to shame, and again feel empty
Your strength is tried, your weakness is shown
While no hand seems near as you stand all alone
The struggle is hard, you may lose your might
Cause everything good seems far out of sight
Pleading for help in hopes someone will hear
Yet done so in shame for no answer you fear
Your faith seems to grasp on your very last string
Not understanding what this trial will bring
But faith and persistence will always be right
When do so in virtue, you soon will see light
So stand-fast and pray to Him who you know
For He's always there and helping you grow

Remember

Let us not forget the way

That brought us to our knees

When we were in our sorrows

And begged our Savior please

And when His love filled our life

To lighten our heavy load

It also brought us needed peace

And cured that which was woe'd

Then when our aches and troubles

seem to bother us no more

It's then we feel the love of Christ

Of which we've known before

So whether times are hard or not

Remember what you've felt

The Savior's help you pleaded for

all those lonely nights you knelt